We’re not superwomen [and why we’re allowed to stop trying]

 Deep breath. This is a post I’d hoped I’d never write.  Or at least not publish because the in-between of my drafts folder and actual posts is immense. Yet the reason I’m churning my thoughts out loud today is that a) I’m hoping this will make me accountable to follow through with what I’m about to say. And b) my intention has always been to write the kind of blog I’d want to read and I’ve been glad to see similar posts around the blog world.


If something is on your mind and influencing your day-to-day life significantly you know there’s a point when you can’t ignore it anymore.  Ooookay …

The good news: After a recent stint of writer’s block I’m currently on a roll with blogging. Several drafts lined up, more ideas [even recipes – when was the last time I posted one??] in my head.

The bad news: I’m scrambling to balance blogging and life [and don’t like admitting it].

For the past weeks, no, months, I’ve had a hard time living up to my own expectations/assumptions of blogging. That would be posting a minimum number of days per week, replying to comments  [I know I fail there] and stay in touch with other bloggers. Here’s the deal: I absolutely enjoy all of these “tasks”. They don’t feel like duties – unless life takes over and time become a rare good. And with the move and a new job with irregular work hours just that happened. Cue frustration.

Or to quote a fellow blogger: Blogging isn’t your full time job (right now!), it’s a hobby. And she’s unfortunately right there. The main point is I have yet to get used to my work schedule – that in this job will actually never be consistent – and figure out a daily structure. One that helps me find my balance againone that will include blogging. If you find yourself stressed out by too much on your plate the advice is usually: Look for something to go. None of us need to be superwomen or -men.


My intention here isn’t to whine and ask for sympathies. Rather, I want to apologize for probably commenting and/or posting a bit less in weeks to come and encourage others to take time for self-care above all else. Over the weekend I got thinking – a run helped – and realized a few things. None of these are partcularly new or sensational but I have an inkling I’m not the only one who needs a [not so] subtle reminder for one or the other.


  1.  All good advice at hand is useless if we don’t put it into practice or Practice what you preach: I often find myself saying ‘yessss’ to it, add it to my ever-growing collections of good good links – yet more often than not don’t follow suit.
  2.  Taking time for self care is not selfish: Whether you’re a single lady, too, or not: the only person who can first and needs to ensure your well-being are you.  If we don’t take care of and show ourselves respect – why should others? It’s similar to what Carly said in her recent post [though on a slightly different topic]: People learn how to treat you based on what you accept from them. So let’s all take some me time in every day.
  3. You’re allowed to feel stressed: Sounds odd? Here’s what I mean: for the past months I’ve kept telling myself that – compared to others – my life was not stressful enough to be exhausted or allowed to complain. Compared to some serious superwomen who juggled being a mum/wife/puppy owner [<- kudos to all of you!!] I felt I shouldn’t complain. I blamed myself for not managing my time the best. If others could why didn’t I? The truth is: we all have a different stress tolerance. What some can work with 24/7 can leave others dragging along by the Wednesday. I know I’m at a point where I need to make changes if I don’t want to drive myself into the ground
  4. Sleep is crucial: I guess we’ve all read those facts before? And probably promised ourselves we’d get more shut eye time … tomorrow. Only tomorrow never happened. I’m vowing to really make an effort to improve here. Keep your fingers crossed for me 🙂 !
  5. Sometimes we need to re-think priorities: This one’s a real dozy for me. If you asked me to tell you my priorites in life to help figure out which tasks I could lay off for a while I’d be stumped. Keeping in contact with others, blogging, working out, preparing healthy food for work, finally fixing my printer, … Everything seems like a #1 priority on my to-do list. But you know the saying: Something’s gotta give.

Ironically, writing this post already has my mind spurring with ideas for a little blog series on self-care. Once I’ve figured it out better myself [re: practice what I preach 🙂 ]. Take that as another sign I most definitely won’t stop blogging anytime soon. My inner wannabe superwoman just needs to take a chill pill and refuel – mentally and physically. All so I  can keep flooding your  Bloglovin’ feeds with deeper, delicious or downright goofy posts.  Long story short again: I’m not going on a blogging hiatus – just trying to balance on- and offline life. Stay with me?!

Happiness-inducing today: A lot of laughter and joking around with colleagues at the office. It was a very busy day that flew by but busy in a very good way.

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As always: Share your experiences, advice and any other thoughts on the topic!

22 thoughts on “We’re not superwomen [and why we’re allowed to stop trying]

  1. Ms.J says:

    Ohmygosh worth the wait; the most delicious read to accompany my morning coffee. I’m admittedly on the other end of the spectrum right now – and loving it! My self-care is absolutely of utmost importance because I’ve reached a stage where I…just plain love pampering and treating my mind and body well. I notice too that I’m very in tune to my exact needs when I am taking special care of myself. And seriously, everyone deserves to be totally in love with ensuring they’re not pushing themselves over the edge and taking the steps to centre ourselves.

    • Miss Polkadot says:

      Actually, this wasn’t the post I hinted at last week – that one’s still in the drafts folder so something to look forward to still ;).
      I’m so happy to have witnessed how far you’ve come in terms of honouring your needs and speaking up for yourself. Keep going on that way!

  2. Elsie @ Sharing Healthiness says:

    Thank you so much for this post! I struggle with taking too much on my plate and finding balance. Blogging is my hobby but as with everything in my life I take it very seriously and I feel overwhelmed very easily. I love it too much I am scared I will dread it one day. Thank you for reminding me that I am not a superwoman..just a normal girl! 🙂

  3. Juli says:

    I am guilty of almost all the above! And it’s exactly what I always tell myself: priorities and balance. At the moment I can’t juggle with all the balls at once and unfortunately the “preparing healthy meals” ball fell to earth. My solution: wish for a slow cooker and a timer for Christmas and start fresh in January. I could beat me up about this or just let it happen and keep the other balls moving. I chose the latter. Because in January some other balls will disappear and the healthy eating one will naturally be more of a priority then. And I try not to compare myself with others too much. Stress resistence shouldn’t be a competition. Besides I know I’d loose 😛
    Happy Advent Season Miss Polkadot!

  4. Amanda @ .running with spoons. says:

    I hear ya, girl. I’m currently dealing with the same sort of thing, which resulted in me making the decision to take an extra day off from blogging as well. Work and school are demanding a lot of attention right now, and while I -could- technically keep my blogging schedule up, my content and sanity would suffer a lot as a result. Life has its phases – some of which are busier than others – and it’s fine to make adjustments as we go.

  5. Kristin says:

    I’ve been going through the exact same thing! I work as a server and I’ve been working tons of double shifts lately trying to make extra money. When I get home, I don’t usually feel like blogging, but then I feel guilty for not blogging. Good luck, and thaks for the

    • Miss Polkadot says:

      A friend of mine’s a waitress, too, and goodness yes, you have an exhausting job. Don’t feel guilty about not blogging when returning after those shifts.You deserve to relax and blog when your mind’s relaxed.I know my posts are half-hearted when I’m not feeling it and blogging should be fun – not another duty. Good luck to you in balancing it all out, too!

  6. Laura says:

    Sorry I’m late to respond but I made sure to keep this post open in a tab so I wouldn’t forget! Blogging self care is extremely important and I don’t think anyone should ever have to apologize for blogging/commenting/responding less unless their blog is their job. The busier I got after college with a job, a boyfriend, yoga, etc the less time I had to focus on my blog. And that left me with a lot of guilt which I sometimes still experience even though I blog, what? once a month? I have a new view on blogging now and that’s to do it only when I truly feel inspired to. I don’t look for content ideas or use linkups as an excuse to post (although I do enjoy the occasional TOLT and WIAW). Blogging truly is a balancing act and I believe that a healthy life is one where you are happy with the amount of LIVING you are doing in comparison to the amount of BLOGGING you are doing.

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