We’re not superwomen [and why we’re allowed to stop trying]

 Deep breath. This is a post I’d hoped I’d never write.  Or at least not publish because the in-between of my drafts folder and actual posts is immense. Yet the reason I’m churning my thoughts out loud today is that a) I’m hoping this will make me accountable to follow through with what I’m about to say. And b) my intention has always been to write the kind of blog I’d want to read and I’ve been glad to see similar posts around the blog world.

Thinking-Out-Loud

If something is on your mind and influencing your day-to-day life significantly you know there’s a point when you can’t ignore it anymore.  Ooookay …

The good news: After a recent stint of writer’s block I’m currently on a roll with blogging. Several drafts lined up, more ideas [even recipes – when was the last time I posted one??] in my head.

The bad news: I’m scrambling to balance blogging and life [and don’t like admitting it].

For the past weeks, no, months, I’ve had a hard time living up to my own expectations/assumptions of blogging. That would be posting a minimum number of days per week, replying to comments  [I know I fail there] and stay in touch with other bloggers. Here’s the deal: I absolutely enjoy all of these “tasks”. They don’t feel like duties – unless life takes over and time become a rare good. And with the move and a new job with irregular work hours just that happened. Cue frustration.

Or to quote a fellow blogger: Blogging isn’t your full time job (right now!), it’s a hobby. And she’s unfortunately right there. The main point is I have yet to get used to my work schedule – that in this job will actually never be consistent – and figure out a daily structure. One that helps me find my balance againone that will include blogging. If you find yourself stressed out by too much on your plate the advice is usually: Look for something to go. None of us need to be superwomen or -men.

 

My intention here isn’t to whine and ask for sympathies. Rather, I want to apologize for probably commenting and/or posting a bit less in weeks to come and encourage others to take time for self-care above all else. Over the weekend I got thinking – a run helped – and realized a few things. None of these are partcularly new or sensational but I have an inkling I’m not the only one who needs a [not so] subtle reminder for one or the other.

Tea

  1.  All good advice at hand is useless if we don’t put it into practice or Practice what you preach: I often find myself saying ‘yessss’ to it, add it to my ever-growing collections of good good links – yet more often than not don’t follow suit.
  2.  Taking time for self care is not selfish: Whether you’re a single lady, too, or not: the only person who can first and needs to ensure your well-being are you.  If we don’t take care of and show ourselves respect – why should others? It’s similar to what Carly said in her recent post [though on a slightly different topic]: People learn how to treat you based on what you accept from them. So let’s all take some me time in every day.
  3. You’re allowed to feel stressed: Sounds odd? Here’s what I mean: for the past months I’ve kept telling myself that – compared to others – my life was not stressful enough to be exhausted or allowed to complain. Compared to some serious superwomen who juggled being a mum/wife/puppy owner [<- kudos to all of you!!] I felt I shouldn’t complain. I blamed myself for not managing my time the best. If others could why didn’t I? The truth is: we all have a different stress tolerance. What some can work with 24/7 can leave others dragging along by the Wednesday. I know I’m at a point where I need to make changes if I don’t want to drive myself into the ground
  4. Sleep is crucial: I guess we’ve all read those facts before? And probably promised ourselves we’d get more shut eye time … tomorrow. Only tomorrow never happened. I’m vowing to really make an effort to improve here. Keep your fingers crossed for me 🙂 !
  5. Sometimes we need to re-think priorities: This one’s a real dozy for me. If you asked me to tell you my priorites in life to help figure out which tasks I could lay off for a while I’d be stumped. Keeping in contact with others, blogging, working out, preparing healthy food for work, finally fixing my printer, … Everything seems like a #1 priority on my to-do list. But you know the saying: Something’s gotta give.

Ironically, writing this post already has my mind spurring with ideas for a little blog series on self-care. Once I’ve figured it out better myself [re: practice what I preach 🙂 ]. Take that as another sign I most definitely won’t stop blogging anytime soon. My inner wannabe superwoman just needs to take a chill pill and refuel – mentally and physically. All so I  can keep flooding your  Bloglovin’ feeds with deeper, delicious or downright goofy posts.  Long story short again: I’m not going on a blogging hiatus – just trying to balance on- and offline life. Stay with me?!

Happiness-inducing today: A lot of laughter and joking around with colleagues at the office. It was a very busy day that flew by but busy in a very good way.

Stay in touch!

Twitter: @MissPolkadot21
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As always: Share your experiences, advice and any other thoughts on the topic!

Good good links #31

It’s another Sunday and aside from the fact that last time we talked it was winter still* not much has changed. Same old, same old so we’re talking favourites again. Don’t forget to tell me yours from the week and be back later for some Spill it Sunday action! Until then: Happy Sunday!

*and as Germany hasn’t gotten full alert of spring yet it doesn’t feel like that around here yet, either

Good good links

 

Good good [food for thought]

Changing Focus via Nut Butter Runner

The goal in life shouldn’t be perfection but happiness and balance.

Why Everyone Ahould Try Therapy via Better with Sprinkles

Awesome post removing the stigma from therapy – because it’s nothing to be ashamed of and beneficial in every situation in life.

Are you doing your blog a disservice? via Sprouts ‘n’ Squats

Some things you might want to consider before participating in every link-up out there.

Good good [advice and inspiration]

5 Things I Miss About Weighing More Than 300 Pounds via Mind Body Green

A must-read for all ladies.

9 Every Day Stretches For a Healthy Body via the sweet life

Wanting to prevent further injuries I’ve been looking for a few good basic stretch moves and these seem great.

Top Tips for Naturally Nourished Skin via Nourish by Melissa

Good tips for taking care of your skin from the inside and out.

How To Get The Worst Night’s Sleep Of Your Life via Huffington Post

Struggling with sleep? Here’s why we might be.

How Anyone Can Learn to Cook via Mind Body Green

[aside from the fact it’s a bit advertising] Ideas on how to get into the kitchen [or back after losing your cooking mojo].

Do what you can via Chelsea’s Healthy Kitchen

Life gets busy at times and none of us are superwomen: prioritize and take care of your health, don’t stress.

Bolder Blogging: Writing With Intention via CotterCrunch

What is your intention when blogging??

What If, For A Moment via Battle of the Bites

A beautiful line of thoughts – or, maybe, hopefully more than that if we try?!

What Paleo Gets Right: A Vegan Cardiologist Explains via Mind Body Green

Even if – like me – you’re far from considering paleo this is an interesting read and might possibly help smoothen the waters between proponents of the vegan and paleo diet?!

 

Good good [food]

Chunky Monkey Snack Bites via Running with Spoons

With only seven wholesome ingredients there’s hardly an excuse not to try these little bites of heaven – unless you’re waiting for your bananas to ripen ;).

Chai Apple Chips via Fit Foodie Finds

If the ice cream last week was any indicator: chai spices are favourites of mine and here they make apple chips even better.

Hazelnut Butter-Chocolate Chip Muffins via Coconut and Berries

The winning combination of nuts and chocolate combined in these sweet treats.

The Best Chewy Vegan and Gluten-Free Brownies via edible perspective

Need I say more?!

Happiness inducing today: Sleeping in.

 

What were some of your favourite reads from the week?

Share your thoughts if you read any of the above already!

Going for the goals [October]

Where did time go? I swear we must have skipped a few weeks or at least days because it can’t be almost mid-October already. Right …? Not to whine about the weather or winter approaching faster than we know it – at least not today. But I’d been meaning to post my goals for the month earlier today and … well. Better late than never, right?

Going for the goals

Let’s see how I did with last month’s goals first:

Get more sleep: Woops. I don’t like admitting it but: no, not really. I’ll get to the reasons and my plan to work against them in a minute.

Dry brush every day: Check! It’s all kinds of amazing and I don’t see myself give up on it again anytime soon. Not only did it help me wake up in the morning but my skin is now smoother than ever and (!) my blood circulation improved noticably. I’ve had troubles with that before and it’s a lot better already. Definitely something I can recommend and it doesn’t take much time at all.

Read at least two books: No. I tried but even though I got a pile of different books from the library none really caught my interest. Two chapters in this one, four from another – altogether I might have read a read a whole book in total but didn’t find the one. Quite disappoting when you can’t find a good one but I just started The Book Thief and that seems quite promising already.

Write surprise letters: Check! This one was my favourite. Once I’d gotten the hang of it again it was just amazing. Dare I even say it’s addictive? Fingers crossed I’ll get replies from the people I wrote. In fact, I’ve decided to keep up this goal during the months to come. My only trouble was that I didn’t even have the addresses of some people I wanted to write – and some of them might be reading this :). Let’s just say that some letters might still be on their way –  a few thousand miles aren’t a day’s journey.

Get more creative in the kitchen: Yes! I stopped counting but I’m rather sure I managed to try at least four new recipes a week and came up with some of my own. Another goal I want to keep up in October.

 

My goals for October

 

[Finally] get more sleep

Sheep_September

After failing on this in September I really need to make more of an effort. The key to this one will definitely be unplugging before bed. Reading blogs or writing posts late at night is not a good idea. This is going to be a huge goal so I’d be happy already if I managed to shut down the laptop earlier most nights. Baby steps ;).

Become more mindful of my snacking

As much as I enjoy snacking it has gotten out of control lately. While I can go without snacks for a while throughout the day my evenings are snackceptional in a bad way. If I was actually ‘hungry’ for a snack: okay. But more often than not I find myself munching non-stop even if I think I don’t need it. Basically, I want to eat more intuitively again.

Set up a [blogging] schedule

Not only to prevent happenings like today’s delayed goal post but for life in general, too. Ironically, having more time at the moment does not result in me getting more done – even though I’m usually a planner. Quite the opposite because there’s always still ‘tomorrow’ to get things done. I’m not happy with this and want to become more productive in all areas of life. Blogging will be one part of this in terms of spending less time doing it but keeping up a regular schedule.

Do the Photo A Day challenge.

I’m sure many of you will have heard of this before. I’ve been meaning to take part in it forever but somehow never managed to stick with it for a whole month. I’m off to a good start already and will randomly throw in a collage of pictures in my posts to keep myself accountable.

Fingers crossed for my October goals to work out better than last month’s!

Happy Friday to all of you!

Happiness inducing today: An amazing run outside.

Bloggers: How do you manage your blogging schedule? I could really use some advice on how to work out this one.

Do you have any goals for October?

Any other over-snackers? Tips of how to be more mindful?

Going for the goals [September]

It’s been a long time since I last [and admittedly for the only time so far] posted goals for a month. Knowing I’ll be more accountable to stick with those I’ve made, though, I decided to share mine again. A new month, a new chance to make them work. right?

Going for the goals

So other than applying for and hopefully finding a new internship placement here’s what I’m striving for this month:

Get more sleep

Sheep

Yes, I’m all of 22 years old and share my bed with a stuffed animal.

As well aware as I am of its benefits I’ve been slacking on sleep more than ever before the past weeks. This is the one change I’m assuming to make the biggest difference in my overall well-being. Seven hours a night would be great, eight perfect.

Read at least two books

Fall is the season for curling up in bed with a good book and after two disappointing reads lately I’m on the lookout for new ones. Feel free to share any great ones you’ve read lately!

Dry brush every day

dry brush

Inspired by Amanda I finally invested in a brush last week [note: they’re not that expensive but I’d just forgotten] and have been using it every day since. It has felt good already and I’m curious to see whether I’ll experience the differences she mentioned, too.

Be more creative in the kitchen [again]

Once more I’ve found myself stuck in a food rut which in itself might not be that awful. But being honest with myself I know that one of main reasons is still my fear of change and need of safety. But sticking largely with the same ‘safe’ options gets tiring after a while. Therefore my plan is to try at least four new recipes a week [three would be the standard number to use here but it’s an uneven one and you know how much I like these. Not.] – and hopefully create some myself, too.

Write surprise letters

Letter

It’s amazing how happy something as simple as a letter can make others. It’s true at least for myself. So to bring a smile to smile to some people’s faces I’ll get out pen and paper. Actually, it’s a win-win situation because I genuinely enjoy going the old-fashioned way.

Let’s see how I’ll be doing!

Happiness inducing today: A nice uplifting phone chat with my mum.

What are your goals for September if you made any?

Have you ever tried dry brushing?

Do you still write letters [regulary]?